Thomas Jefferson inspired a nation by saying, “All Men Are Created Equal.”
Well, I’m here to tell you that all people are not equal.
To realize that there are millions of things that make us different is part of understanding how life works.
In contrast, to appreciate that there are just as many things that make us the same is part of understanding how spirituality works.
It is ok to disagree with this, or to ask questions. We are human beings after all, it is what we do. In fact, humanity has evolved in a way that we are becoming experts at disagreeing and asking questions. I could argue that the world we live in today, with the help of social media, encourages it.
What is real, what is fake? Who is real, who is pretending? When will it get better? Why will it get better? How will it get better? And to me, the most difficult question of them all; “what if it never gets better?”
Unfortunately, for someone trying to live in recovery, partaking in the socially acceptable behavior of questioning everyone and everything like this can be toxic.
Let me be clear, I am not here to tell you to stop asking questions. Questioning things is important. I will however warn you that expecting answers without a sense of patience is a recipe for disaster. Sometimes you just need to have faith that the answers to your questions will come in time.
But not everyone is trying to “live in recovery,” so why should we care about any of this?
Today’s lesson tackles this question.
First off, it would be helpful to our journey if we could find some common ground between you and I. Are you an addict in recovery? Do you suffer from what others describe as mental instability? If so, then great, we know each other already, do we not? If we do not have these characteristics in common, then how in the world can we relate to one another?
Luckily, in my experiences, I have found one thing all humans across this vast globe have in common. Can you think of what it is?
Before we go on, let me remind you that today’s lecture is not about me. So, if you want to know more about some of the things that have made me who I am, then please, feel free to visit our website at RecoveryHighSchool.com. We would love to have you.
With that out of the way, let us get back to the point; what do we have in common?
How about we begin by looking at the human experience, let’s call it ‘life.’ Life presents each and every person a puzzle to put together. The pieces of that puzzle are unique, and when we begin building it there is no way of knowing how all the pieces will fit together.
For some, happiness and prosperity will fit together first. Building your puzzle will come easy and you will not know how to even look for the pieces that represent struggle and hardship because you do not know what those pieces look like yet or where they fit in your ‘life’s puzzle.’ For others, struggle and hardship may make up the entire boarder of your puzzle, so naturally you begin working there. To you, happiness and prosperity may or may not even exist in your puzzle, so why would you waste your time trying to find pieces that may never fit?
This analogy serves two purposes.
First, both people are in a struggle to put the pieces of their lives together-in that, they have something in common. The other thing I hope you realize is that there is no definitively right or wrong way to work on your puzzle (though you may choose to argue this point). Some may choose to focus on the easy parts and struggle with the difficult parts later. Others may choose to do the opposite.
In life, unlike the puzzle analogy, we don’t get to choose. “You get the hand you’re dealt.”
There are millions of tragedies that I have not had to endure in this life. Because this is true, there is no way I could understand what you have been through in the process of putting your puzzle together. Similarly, I cannot remember what it was like to be a child without direction. Dealing with the hardships you are going through. Managing the rapidly changing world the way you are now.
While I do not know you, how many years you have walked this Earth, your gender, your race, where you live, who and what you love, I am comfortable telling you this one truth about me- I have been both blessed and cursed in this life. Can you relate?
In this reality, we all suffer, in suffering we can all relate. That is what we all have in common.
So, what do we do with it?
We are all recovering from something. Regardless of age, things are changing so rapidly that trying to cope with change is a struggle in itself. While I do not pretend to have all the answers, I have learned three key skills in successfully putting my life’s puzzle together, 1) Ask Questions. 2) Be Patient. And 3) Have Faith.
But, if the desire to change the world still stirs inside you after practicing these three skills then add this final piece to your puzzle… “Take Action!”
This world needs you.
"Believe in me, and believe in him."-Lost Boy by Ruth B.
Question Of The Day:
What does ‘spirituality’ mean to you?
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